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Thoughts for the day:
 
Thought for the day
Oh, how often do I dismay
At my calamity of this day
Yet there is a tomorrow
I need only think with less sorrow
Rising to brighten my tomorrow is the sun
So I must not think that I am undone
I can be, I will see
Like the pollinating bee
Spreading the good pollen to each flower
So it is with good humor within my power
To brighten another's day
In a cheery hello that I say
I care about them today
 
Better Parenting:
 
Watch the "baseball catch" scene in Domestic Disturbance (movie), followed by the next scene of the father (Travolta) showing his kid how to paint on varnish.  The two scenes are a clear contrast in parenting styles; I suspect the director edited it this way with intent.  The first scene is showing critical interaction, lack of fun, and frustration on both sides.  The latter scene shows friendship, trust, humor, openness to be honest, accountability, and boundarysetting.
So which scene do you represent?  If you find yourself often yelling at your kids, I would suspect the first scene is your mode of operation.  Putting down kids, going down to their emotional level does not benefit anyone, and only will cause you more frustration.  If you have told a counselor that you have tried to play with your kids but they don't want to play with you or you don't like playing with them, then ask yourself why.  Are you too critical and have forgotten how to teach?  If you make fun of what the kid fails at doing (throwing the ball or hitting it), why would he want to play withyou?!
Cheerleading, encouraging, and teaching go a long way in increasing confidence and happiness.  Guess what?  A happy, confident kid is less demanding and more compliant to the rules!  Yell less, play more, it is easier on everyone.  Set boundaries consistantly.  Time outs should be about 1 minute per year of age.
Better parenting is done through informed learning, begin to learn how to do it better.
 
Have you tested your Spiritual temperature lately?
 
1. When did you last pray or meditate on your faith's verses?
2. Are you actively fellowshiping with like-minded?
3. Are you actively memorizing verses to defeat spiritual attacks?
4. Are you worshiping?
5. Are you daily reading/studying words for spiritual growth?
 
Remember, for those who believe in God's word, your main source of spiritual feeding resonates from opening and devouring His teachings.  Notice that there are five points listed above, like the five fingers of your hand.  When all five fingers are folded over (actively being used), you have a strong fist to resist the onslaughts of deception and temptation.  If only two or three fingers are present/active (not cut off), the making of a fist is weaker, thus your ability to be spiritually strong is weaker. When we are spiritually weak, temptation has a greater hold upon us, the more easily we are lead astray.
 
 
Exercise to conquer Depression and Anxiety
 
Our new design for living works best when it is body, mind, and soul. Our bodies, as well as our thoughts, behaviors and emotions need hope and healing. In fact, neuroscience tells us that that the body is, in fact, where we experience and process our emotions. For this and other obvious reasons of health and overall well being, getting our bodies back on our side so that they can be a friend rather than a foe, is an important part of recovery. Depression and anxiety can become overwhelming as medications are removed and we look for new ways to feel better and manage moods that are natural rather than synthetic. We know that regular exercise is an important part of our physical fitness, but research reveals that it can contribute to our emotional and psychological fitness as well.
In a Duke University study, published in the American Medical Association’s Archives of Internal Medicine, October 25, 1999, exercise was found to be almost as effective as medication in reducing symptoms of depression. 156 patients diagnosed with major depressive disorder were divided into three groups in order to study the impact that exercise might have on depression:
Group 1    Did exercise only with no medication
Group 2    Used medication only with no exercise
Group 3    Used a combination of medication and exercise.
Much to the surprise of the researchers, all three groups, after 16 weeks, showed similar and significant improvements in their depression.
Here are the statistical findings of the study:
  • 65.5% of the group who used medication alone, were no longer depressed after 16 weeks.
  • 60.4% of the group who did exercise alone, were no longer depressed after 16 weeks.
  • 68.8% of the group who did both exercise and medication were no longer depressed after 16 weeks.
The researchers did note that patients who took the antidepressants (in this case Zoloft) saw their symptoms relieved sooner, but by 16 weeks the group differences had virtually disappeared. Medication can be a life saver for some in recovery and no one wants to suggest otherwise, but adding exercise to a regime that includes medication or incorporating it into a recovery program as part of overall mood management offers more choices to the recovery menu. “One of the conclusions we can draw from this,” according to psychologist and study leader Dr. James Blumenthal, “Is that exercise may be just as effective as medication and may be a better alternative for certain patients. “ While we don’t know why exercise confers such a benefit, this study shows that exercise should be considered as a credible form of treatment for these patients. Almost one-third of depressed patients in general do not respond to medications, and for others, the medications can cause unwanted side effects. Exercise should be considered a viable option.”
Depression also has a social side and people who are depressed, socially anxious, or emotionally traumatized may tend to isolate.  Part of recovery, is to learn to make new connections and practice new relationship behaviors as we do in twelve step rooms.  Dr. Blumenthal reflected that the structured and supportive atmosphere of the exercise program could have contributed to improving the symptoms of the exercise group.
Blumenthal feels that exercise may be beneficial because patients are actually taking a proactive role in their own physical and psychological health. “…Taking a pill is… passive,” says Blumenthal.  He went on to say,  “Patients who exercised may have felt a greater sense of mastery over their condition and gained a greater sense of accomplishment. They may have felt more self-confident and had better self-esteem because they were able to do it themselves, and they may have attributed their improvement to their ability to exercise. These findings could change the way some depressed patients are treated, especially those who are not interested in taking antidepressants.  Although these medications have been proven to be effective,  many people want to avoid the side effects or are looking for a more ‘natural’ way of feeling better.”
Kristin Vickers-Douglas, a psychologist at Mayo Clinic, adds that exercise is “not a magic bullet, but increasing physical activity is a positive and active strategy to help manage depression and anxiety.”
What Exercise Does to the Body
When we exercise, our bodies release certain mood-enhancing endorphins. Endorphins trigger a positive feeling in the body, similar to that of morphine. These feelings of euphoria, sometimes associated with a “runner’s high,” may contribute to our good feelings about ourselves and ourlives.
Endorphins also act as sedatives, actually diminishing our perception of pain. They are manufactured in our brain, spinal cord, and many other parts of our bodies. Not coincidently, the neuron receptors that endorphins bind to are the same ones that bind some pain medicines. However, unlike morphine, the activation of these receptors by the body’s own endorphins is less likely to lead to addiction, dependence or negative lifestyle patterns.
Exercise boosts the brain’s feel-good endorphins, releases muscle tension, improves sleep, and reduces levels of the stress hormone, cortisol. It also increases our body temperature, which may have a calming effect. All of these changes in our mind and body can improve such symptoms as sadness, anxiety, irritability, stress, fatigue, anger, self-doubt, helplessness and hopelessness that are associated with depression.
“Small bouts of exercise may be a great way to get started if it’s initially too hard to do more,” Dr. Vickers-Douglas says. Though the research suggests that it may take at least 30 minutes of exercise a day, three to five times a week to significantly improve depression symptoms, any amount of activity,  as little as 10 to 15 minutes at a time, can still improve mood in the short term.
Regular exercise has been proven to help us:
  • Reduce stress
  • Ward off anxiety and feelings of depression
  • Boost self-esteem
  • Improve sleep
Exercise also:
  • Strengthens the heart.
  • Lowers blood pressure.
  • Improves muscle tone and strength.
  • Strengthens and builds bones.
  • Reduces body fat.
  • Increases energy levels.
  • Helps with over all fitness.
Research also shows that we’re more likely to maintain good exercise habits if we get exercise to fit into our lives, say by walking or biking to work, or walking, jogging or playing a sport with friends. Some forms of exercise that are user friendly are:
  • Biking
  • Dancing
  • Gardening
  • Housework
  • Jogging at a moderate pace
  • Low-impact aerobics
  • Golf (walking the course)
  • Playing tennis
  • Swimming
  • Walking
  • Yard work
  • Yoga
Don’t wait for will power to begin exercising, says Dr. Vickers-Douglas.  “Some people think they need to wait until they somehow generate enough willpower to exercise. But waiting for willpower or motivation to exercise is a passive approach, and when someone has depression and is unmotivated, waiting passively for change is unlikely to help at all. Focusing on a lack of motivation and willpower can make you feel like a failure. Instead, identify your strengths and skills and apply those to taking some first steps toward exercise.”
People who feel anxious feel a perceived lack of control over their lives. They feel, in other words, out of control. Both anxiety and depression can make us feel helpless, which can lead to more anxiety and depression. It’s a Catch 22. Exercise is proactive. Along with the obvious physiological benefits, it is helpful psychologically to feel that we can do something each day to help ourselves. Getting ourselves to a meeting, or out for a walk are both activities that require personal motivation.  These could be called “victorious circles”. Unlike the vicious circles that sink us further into disease where helplessness and hopelessness lead to more helplessness and hopelessness, combining exercise with recovery activities like regular meetings, becomes part of Good Orderly Direction and breeds more of the same. So bike, walk or jog to a meeting. Join a yoga class, a team sport or a hiking group. The personal and social benefits will enhance recovery and improve life.
 
Exercise by lifting that phone and calling Healing Today at 213-910-7440 for help now!
 
 
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