This is a great question, no. Once the problem is identified and some of the past contributing points are discussed, goals are formulated, finding solutions that the consumer wants to work on.
It is important to identify "exceptions" to the negative behavior and what caused those "exceptions". The "exceptions" are when things went well and the consumer inherently was doing what was needed to prevent the negative behavior. Often times the consumer is unaware of the fact that they indeed are doing something different. It is easy for us to list and focus on the negatives in life, it is much more challenging to focus on the positive changes; isn't that interesting?!
Couples issues: think about why you married your spouse, what attracted you to them. How did you treat that person when dating, and has that changed? How can you edify or "lift up" that person again, make them feel they truly are special to you?
Relational issues: the world does not revolve only around you. You must hear other peoples' position and be willing to compromise. You need to communicate both the good and the bad in a positive manner that will allow the other person to "hear" you.
Stressed out: can't we all relate to this?! Taking time out for yourself to relax in our current society's philosophy almost seems like a sin! It is okay to say I cannot work a 10 or 12 hour day six days per week. It is okay to say I want to spend tonight just doing nothing but reading a book, cuddling, meditating with candle light, taking a walk in the woods, or just taking a nap after a hard day. Sometimes we think we must run 24/7, don't do it...unless you just want to go to the grave quicker. On the other hand, doing nothing all/most of the time is not healthy either. We need exercise for the body to remain healthy, a mind needs to be used to stay sharp, and we need relaxation to assist our emotional health.
Think of a positive thought, and now how can you make that thought happen?
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